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I have a secret

My name is Meng.
I'm a 25-year-old Chinese girl.
My parents think I have never fallen in love.
We don't talk about relationships, because I have a secret:
I like girls.
As much as I want my family to know me better,
the fear stops me from revealing the truth.
I wrote a letter to my parents.

My story is not unique

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Growing up as a first generation American in a traditional Asian household, Dilys struggles to find balance between her two conflicting cultural identities.
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Born and raised in China, Lanny moved to the US three years ago for graduate school. Through self exploration in the queer community in New York City, she has gradually come to terms with her own sexuality.

I can’t lie anymore

April 11, 2016

Four months after I wrote my coming out letter and made that video,
I decided to show it to my parents via Facetime.

My parents asked me this:

Are you just curious?

Are you REALLY REALLY sure?

Do you think you are just influenced by Western culture?

Have you ever liked a boy?

Do you have anyone you like now?

Do you think it’s because you in the art circle?

Are you the man or the woman in a relationship?

What’s your plan if you come back to China?

Who will take care of you when you are older?

What about kids?